Blessing Manifesting

I'd love for you to join the Tribe of Wishcasters! Every Wednesday we flock to our blogs, we answer a question, and then we all visit each other and leave a comment like "As you wish for yourself, so I wish for you as well." It's a great way to connect, to share, to find GREAT new blogs, and to bring our wishes one step closer to manifesting. So join in! Today we are asked:

Happy Tuesday Blossoms!
Today I am sharing with you some covers for the Facebook Timeline! At first I didn't like the timeline, (and I still really don't) but you might as well go with the River of Change and make the best out of it right?

So let's make the best out of it with a few facebook covers to spruce things up and bring a smile to your face! You can find them on the Freebies Page!

P.S. You are beautiful. I know I say this a lot, all of the time, and it's because I need you to know it, because it's so true.

P.S.S. Have a super freakin' day!

I've noticed that I tend to just jump into topics without giving you some background, so every now and again we're going to get back to the basics! I used to wonder how in the world you were supposed to pick out crystals. I'd hear stories of being drawn to stones, of feeling their energy and knowing they were right for you.

Every Sunday we talk about self love, what it is and the ways we can practice it. A few weeks ago we talked about physical self love and today we're going to talk about psychological self love. Which is about loving what's going on inside of you.

We all need something different.

But one thing that I am convinced that we all need is time with ourselves. It's muchos importante to get to know ourselves and get to know what makes us happy.

Five years ago after my first and last relationship, I had absolutely no idea what I really liked or what I wanted. I knew that I spent a lot of time depressed, what sad music I liked, and that World of Warcraft filled up the in between time.

I had put so much of myself into a relationship that when I got out of it I realized that I had completely and utterly lost my sense of self. I think a lot of relationships are like that, at least the first one or two.

You need to take time to spend time with yourself, for yourself. Check in with what you are thinking and feeling. There are plenty of ways to do this and a lot of them are not going to take very long, it's worth it to make the time anyway. 

Good morning my darlings.

So I've been thinkthinkthinking about our direction, mine and yours, and our path together, and then a beautiful idea came to me.

A sharing of our paths. 

Joining, intertwining, walking side-by-side, hand-in-hand. I share with you and I cherish those moments, but what lights me up, what really makes it all worth it, are the moments when you share with me too.

Today I create this sacred space, where you can share with me. Share with me what you are working on, physically, mentally, emotionally, or spiritually. Share with me the things that you are in love with. Share with me the things you're figuring out, wishing for, and hope to be. I would love that.

Gentle sharing, with no judgement. Just lots of hugs and hand holding.

I also want to share more personal thoughts with you here, each Friday. I'm not perfect, I know this, and I'm sure you know this too, but I want you to witness those things, my wisdom and my flaws. My thoughts and imperfections. I don't want to just reflect on lessons of the past, but wisdom I am learning at this moment.

Right now I feel this urge to get to a point I'm not ready to be at. I want to get from Point A, which is realization, to Point C which is the final goal, and bypass point B - doing all of the work. Sometimes it's like a spiral and you get to Point C only to realize you have to start all over. I guess life is like that.

There's someone at my job that I really dislike. Everything about them bothers me and I find myself getting annoyed when one of my friends wants to spend time with this person. I'm trying to dig into the intricacies of why, so that I can deal with those feelings. There's something I read, that when you see traits in others that you dislike it is a reflection of what you dislike about yourself. Maybe there are hints of truth to that.

I think in the quiet, still, dark, corners inside of me I fear being replaced. Which calls my own feelings of self-worth into question. I should never fear that, because I am "me" and me is amazing and irreplaceable... so if that's not it... then I must not have trust in my relationships... Which brings more questions...

Explore all options and you'll find a moment of clarity, an answer, at some point. :)

I was reading this post this morning and I especially loved this one part. It gave me that little twitch inside that said "Think on this more."

The moment you detach yourself from all things, (and that doesn’t mean you give up your love for them – because love and attachment have nothing to do with one another, attachment comes from a place of fear, while love… well, real love is pure, kind, and self less, where there is love there can’t be fear, and because of that, attachment and love cannot coexist) you become so peaceful, so tolerant, so kind, and so serene. 

I don't know if I believe attachment and love cannot coexist and I don't think I can ever come from a place of pure detachment (can any of us?). I can blame it on my fiery, passionate, all-in, Leo nature, or I can just acknowledge that I know myself well enough to know how impossible that feels to me.

Loosening my grasp, letting go some, feeling things shift and widen, maybe that I can do.

I am in love with this song called Yet by Switchfoot. It's funny because it strangely enough makes me think of Blessing Manifesting and the passion that I have for the work that I do. "If it doesn't break your heart it isn't love. If it doesn't break your heart it's not enough. It's when you're breaking down with your insides coming out, that's when you find out what your heart is made of." It makes me think about how I feel when I pour out words here. So many times I have sat here with tears falling as a type, that's just how I am. So many times I've read my work months later and be moved to tears because those words came out of me and are mine. It breaks my heart sometimes, but in a good way, that I have done what I do and I have been what I am.

Today I ask you to walk with me for a little bit, to tell me about what's on your mind and in your heart. 

If you want to walk with me in silence, that's okay too. I know you are here with me, and I am there with you too. A word, a sentence, your life story, it's all okay, and it is all welcomed here, you can also post completely anonymously in the comments.

Today's card is Honesty. Look at that face, can you imagine that he would be anything but honest with you? The thing about Honesty is that he sees you just the way you are and he loves you anyway.

Honesty. Compassion. Tact. Self-deceit. 

Honesty is about being honest with yourself and others, pretty self-explanatory, eh? You need to be completely honest and leave no room for confusion or misunderstandings. Everything that you say and write needs to be clear right now. There is such a thing as harsh honesty, it is clear, yet it is also hurtful. That's not the kind of honesty that Honesty likes, even though he knows we must use it sometimes.

Honesty likes honesty that has compassion and tact. Brutal honesty usually isn't true honesty at all, but slanted towards the worse and towards negativity. Just think of what it means.

Brutal: Savagely violent. Punishingly hard.

Why would you ever want to be brutally anything? When you are honest with yourself be kind and be gentle, it will make your path easier. When being honest with others do the same, make their path just a little bit easier. It's a fine line, true honesty, but as long as you are loving in your honesty you'll find a way to walk it.

I think about the things that I need to be honest with myself about in a gentle way. I want so many things for myself. I want to live up to what success means to me and I do believe I am, yet... I also, honestly, want to be a success in other's eyes as well.

I want so much for myself that often times the thoughts of those things are just little whispers in my mind, so afraid to be spoken out loud, too afraid that saying them would make them manifest when I'm not ready for them. I don't believe in forcing yourself to do anything/be anything. Maybe that's too much of a passive outlook, I prefer to think of it as gentle.

I believe that when we are ready, we are ready, and beautiful things happen. When things happen before we are ready, (even good things that under different circumstances, or at different times in our lives, could be great opportunities), it can be traumatic and painful. You're ready when you are ready, it's like being born, and some people are ready sooner than others.

That is what my honesty tells me.

Journaling Prompt: Is there something that you need to be honest with yourself, or someone else, about? How can you do it in a gentle way?

Good morning Darlings!

What a month it's been so far! I've moved into my own apartment, there's been lots of unpacking going on, work at my retail job has been nutso, Inventory is coming up which means I only get one day off and have to work six days straight to get things done.

Today is my only day off and I was sitting down to do Blessing Manifesting work and I realized that it was one of the few things I wasn't stressed about this week. My work is sustainable to me, it's happy and joyful and I love it. I then decided to blog about it, because why not? I blog about all of the things I love and I thought that it might be interesting to a few of you blogging and business Goddesses. After all, I write an average of six blog posts a week, I make freebies every week, I post on social media at least three times a day, I do oracle card readings and email coaching sessions, I have a 40 hour a week night job, and somewhere in there I have a life as well. So now I am going to put on my Business Goddess cap and share with you a little (it actually turned into a lot) about what I do.

Social Media
Some people thrive on social media and others see it as a great big chore. It's hard to have an online business and NOT use Facebook and Twitter to get your message out there. I really enjoy both, although I do sometimes hit a wall with my anti-social tendencies, it's hard to just strike up conversations with strangers, even online! It's something I'm working on though because I'm sure I'm missing out on getting to know some really amazing people. If you don't like social media, don't force yourself to be social, a gentle nudge never hurt though. Out of your comfort zone is where the magic happens, right?

To me, the best way to use social media is to engage your followers and fans. If you use it purely to market whatever you're selling you won't get very far. I'm not going to be interested in following someone just to hear "Buy x and buy y." Where's the fun in that? I give my peeps a reason to come to my page every day. Daily quotes, self love tips, affirmations, inspiring pictures. All free, all just for their pleasure, because what's better than brightening someone's day just because you can?

About the quotes, self love tips, and affirmations, want to know how I do it? Up in the picture you will see hootsuite in the background, a great program that lets you schedule updates to Facebook and Twitter. Also in the picture you can see that wordpad is open. In the beginning I would spend an insane amount of time scouring the internet for inspirational quotes every few days. Then I got smart about it. One morning I opened up wordpad and spent about three hours on the internet finding quotes and copying and pasting them into it. I opened up wordpad and spent thirty minutes typing up as many Self Love Tips as I could think of, the same process was used for daily affirmations.

Every Tuesday I log onto hootsuite and input enough updates for the week, sometimes two weeks. It's as simple as opening up my word documents and copying and pasting them into hootsuite. Much easier than tracking down quotes every week and having to hunt through updates for what I posted the week before so I don't repeat myself. I get so excited when I have a week's worth of stuff ready to let out into the world.

How to get fans and followers. 
Currently I have 1,479 followers on Twitter and 2,679 likes on Facebook. So how do I do it? The Facebook answer is easy: Facebook Ads, that is the secret to my success. I've invested a little over $100 in the ads that I've created and customized. It's a great way to get fans. It takes a bit of time to figure out demographics and interests and all that stuff but once you do, you can get tons of fans with little effort.

Twitter is a bit hit and miss. I follow people who sounds awesome, who I think might like my message. I pretty much follow cool peeps and cross my fingers that they follow me back! One method I use is searching the tag #selflove and then following those that are using the tag. It gives us something in common right off the bat!

Blogging
Before I started this blog I hadn't written very much in years. As a teen I wrote in journals all of the time, along with lots of fanfiction. In my early twenties I blogged about my boyfriend drama on myspace and continued writing fanfiction. The big, bad, break up happened, I fell into depression and lost my will to write for a few years. Enter blog idea of changing ze freakin' world!!!! I wrote a few posts early on and then they trickled in every once and awhile. In October I went on vacation from my job and in that week I wrote something like 20 blog posts, enough for the upcoming month and I felt so accomplished. Once those ran out I tried to stuff that much writing into my weekend and it failed miserably.

I didn't want to write that much.

I tried writing each post on the day I wanted to post it and that didn't work either. Writing in the mornings after work, I was tired and just wanting to relax, so I ended up rushing through what I wanted to say or not writing at all. So writing on my days off seemed like it had to be the plan to be sustainable.

So that's what I did.

Instead of trying to cram a month's worth of blogs into two days, I decided that a week's worth might be more manageable. Six blogs wouldn't be too difficult to churn out. Honestly it was difficult, to write that much, but I did it. The next week I decided to do it again and it was much easier.

Now it's my process.

Every Tuesday or Wednesday night I sit down and write six blogs. I spend the week stewing in ideas, thinking about them, smiling to myself as I imagine what I will write about. When a great idea comes to me I save it in my phone or write it in my computer's Sticky Notes. When writing time comes I have so much bursting to get out of me that it's like opening a flood gate and the words just pour out. It usually takes me anywhere from three to five hours to write them all, and I'm okay with that. I love that. I usually write it, look it over once or twice, and then use blogger to schedule it to post sometime in the future.

Side note: I also do everything while watching tv on my computer, usually in a small window off to the side. You can see The Voice up above in the picture. I like noise, I like distractions, it helps me work more joyfully and makes everything more fun.

The bulk of my work is done in... er... bulk. Condensing most of it into Tuesday/Wednesday gives me the ability to not feel rushed during the rest of the week, I can have space to breathe and relax and not feel pressured to do anything. Don't get me wrong, I do some sort of work every single day, but I don't feel forced into doing it, which is the point of having a joyful business.

Journaling Prompts: What's your writing process? How do you make the effort you put into your business sustainable?  

I'd love for you to join the Tribe of Wishcasters! Every Wednesday we flock to our blogs, we answer a question, and then we all visit each other and leave a comment like "As you wish for yourself, so I wish for you as well." It's a great way to connect, to share, to find GREAT new blogs, and to bring our wishes one step closer to manifesting. So join in! Today we are asked: 

Happy Tuesday sweetheart! I am so excited to share today's freebie with you! It's all about how awesome you are! 'Cause you really are.

So the point of this worksheet, Rainbow Rays of Awesome You, is for you to come up with six things that you love about yourself.

You write your name in the cloud and on the rainbow rays write a quality that you adoooore about you. I'm sure you can come with them! (You can see mine here!)

You can use this for other things to. Write your kid's name in it and then write down the things you love about them and give it to them as a little gift.

It's all about spreading the love and giving back. It's a beautiful thing.

As you know, the last few weeks have been pretty tough on me, especially in regards to my root chakra. The root chakra governs your feelings of stability and security and with my move, those feelings have been in need of some nourishment.

I felt the intense need to get in touch with my roots.

I mean my ability to feel connected to the earth and planted firmly on top of it. I like to think of myself as a tree that was uprooted. It's hard to find your bearings at first when you're planted somewhere else. It takes a bit of work to feel safe and secure again so that's what I've been working on. One of the easiest ways to help heal those anxieties is to ground yourself.

Grouding, also known as earthing, is the act of connecting yourself back to the earth. 

It is a beautiful practice and is great for helping you feel better if you are anxious, stressed out, filled with nervous energy, or feeling disconnected from the physical.

How do you do it?

There are many ways to ground. Sometimes it's as easy as going outside and letting your bare feet walk upon Mama Earth. You can also incorporate visualization which is my favorite way to ground myself. I like to imagine myself as a tree with my roots traveling deep into the cool, soft, earth.

Grounding allows us to reconnect to the Source. 

The easiest way to do this is to go outside (doing it inside will work too). Imagine you have roots coming out of your feet (if you are standing) or the base of your spine (if you are sitting). Picture your roots reaching deep down into the earth. Let them anchor you to the Source of all life. This is grounding. Empty your body of everything that isn't serving you. Know that you are held by the Earth.

When you've let go of pain, fear, hurt, or anger, imagine a beautiful white/green light flowing up into your roots and then further up into your body. You are filled with earth energy.

Journaling Prompts: What do you do to feel safe when your foundations are rocked? How do you feel when you spend time out in nature?